Think drinking alcohol makes hooking up sexier? Think again. Teens are bombarded with messages that make alcohol and sex seem like a never-ending party. But we don’t live in the fantasy world of TV and movies—this is the real world.

Is it really sexier to be so drunk that you forget about birth control and condoms (maybe even your sexual partner’s name!) and have a pregnancy or STD panic the next day? That doesn’t sound sexy at all; that sounds like a nightmare.

There’s a new public service announcement in the UK urging teens to think twice before mixing alcohol and sex. Check it out, and keep these questions in mind as you watch:

• Who suffers the consequences of mixing alcohol and sex? The guy, the girl or both?
• Whose fault is it for having unprotected sex? The guy, the girl or both?
• Whose responsibility is it to practice safer sex? The guy, the girl or both?

Choosing not to have sex is the only way to completely avoid pregnancy or STDs. But if you choose to have sex, both you and your partner have to be able to make important decisions, like getting tested and using condoms and birth control. Throwing alcohol into that equation is a recipe for risk—risk of pregnancy, STDs and maybe even heartache.

CNN’s Anderson Cooper was covering the steroid-use scandal in professional baseball last night when he asked medical correspondent Sanjay Gupta a question about steroids’ effect on the size of men’s testes. But instead of actually saying “testes,” he called them “bits and pieces.” He was too embarrassed to use the proper word!

After Gupta answered, Anderson apologized and said his question was “ridiculous.”

Was he for real? What’s ridiculous is the fact that a 40-year-old man giggled like a little kid when it came time to say “testes.” See for yourself:

We learn the proper names for all our body parts in school, but when it comes time to talk about our sexual and reproductive organs, people start to blush. Why is it so taboo to use proper names for genitalia? Using words like “bits and pieces” instead of “testes” communicates a sense of shame about sexuality—that it’s embarrassing and shouldn’t be talked about.

Guess what: Sexuality isn’t shameful—we should celebrate it! Shout those words out loud! Vaginas and penises and scrotums, oh my! They’re the actual names for parts of your body, and it’s 100 percent OK to say them.

Need practice using the proper sex terms? We’ve got a glossary full of them!