I was talking with some of my friends about MTV’s Teen Mom a few weeks ago, and one of them said, “They’re all whores.” My friend wasn’t calling the guys who the girls had sex with whores, just the girls—not that anyone deserves to be called a whore. I was really surprised and upset that my friend said this.

Why is it that if you’re a teen mother you’re a whore? I don’t hear people calling 20-something-year-old mothers whores, even though they have unplanned pregnancies too. People—teens and adults—make mistakes and birth control fails. But that doesn’t mean you’re a whore, and it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. I don’t look at any of the girls on Teen Mom as whores or sluts. So, they have kids? So, they’re young? So, what?

Being a parent is the most difficult job in the world, especially when you’re young and not ready to take care of a baby. Why say hurtful things about young mothers who are in a really difficult situation?

People may use words like “whore” because they are insecure and want to feel better about themselves by putting someone else—a girl or woman—down. It would make a big difference if people spent half the time they spend talking bad about other people doing something good, like making sure teens get the information they need to help prevent unplanned pregnancies.

—Kait Hamilton, 17, Staff Writer

Condoms, when used correctly, help prevent unplanned pregnancies, HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Condoms can be an important part of practicing safer sex, and here at Sex, Etc. we encourage you to make condoms fun. Sex, Etc. is not the only place promoting condom use; in fact, a whole city is promoting it! New York City’s Health Department gives away more than 40 million free condoms a year. Those free condoms have a package specifically designed for New York City, a black wrapper based on the city’s subway motif.

The cover of the November issue of Teen Vogue pictures 19-year-old Jourdan Dunn and 18-year-old Chanel Iman along with the cover line “Teen Supermodels Jourdan and Chanel on Their Rise to the Top.” Inside the magazine, Jourdan and Chanel talk about their careers as supermodels, but it’s what Jourdan reveals that’s got people talking.  Jourdan is expecting a baby sometime this December and her boyfriend, mother and modeling agency are supportive of her.

There was some debate at Teen Vogue, as to whether the magazine should still run the cover after they found out Jourdan was pregnant. But a number of factors, like a tight production schedule, kept the cover in place. Jourdan’s pregnancy and other recent celebrity teen pregnancies, like Jamie Lynn Spears and Bristol Palin, have been enough to get the public’s attention and start a conversation about teenage pregnancy.

Take a look at the cover. Can you even tell which one’s pregnant? I don’t know about you, but I don’t look at that picture and say “Omigosh! That supermodel is pregnant! That’s sooooo totally awesome! I want to be a teenage mother, too!!!” I’m smart enough to realize that this girl is an internationally famous supermodel and probably has a lot more money than I do to financially support a baby. I’d understand somebody having a problem with her being on the cover if she was promoting teen pregnancy, but she isn’t. Jourdan said that her pregnancy was unplanned and “really hard,” so she’s certainly not the poster child for how much fun being a pregnant teen is.

Spoiler alert! What is the head cheerleader and president of the Celibacy Club to do when she finds herself pregnant by her boyfriend’s best friend? Well, if you’re Quinn on FOX’s new show Glee, you tell your boyfriend Finn that the baby is his. When he looks at you confused and points out that you’ve never had intercourse, you tell him that it happened the night that you two made out in a hot tub, fully clothed in swimsuits, and he ejaculated. “A hot tub is the perfect temperature for sperm. It helps them swim faster.”

Oh. Em. Glee. You cannot get pregnant simply by swimming in a pool or sitting in a hot tub. Glee offers up what seems to be a generally over-the-top story line spiked with misinformation about pregnancy. It’s easy enough to get caught up in the song-and-dance numbers and to chuckle when soon-to-be-out Kurt tells his father that unitards are “jock chic.” But is there some truth somewhere underneath the ridiculousness?

While being dishonest about a pregnancy is never a fair thing to do, many viewers can probably acknowledge that it can be a challenge to make decisions when you’re scared, overwhelmed and even alone. Will Quinn tell Finn the whole truth about her pregnancy? How might their relationship and individual lives change? In between songs, dance numbers and jazz hands, you can be sure that Glee will keep asking questions about what it means to explore your sexuality as a teen and make choices along the way. In the mean time, you may not want to make Glee your go-to source for sexuality education. Try checking out the articles, FAQs, Forums, and blog posts on Sex, Etc., instead!

Dealing with an unplanned pregnancy means having to make some tough choices. Become a teen parent or have an abortion? But what about the other option? Adoption.

Recently MTV’s 16 and Pregnant featured Catelynn and Tyler, a teen couple who chose to put their daughter Carly up for adoption. If you saw the show, then you know there were a lot of tears, disagreements with their parents, nine long months of pregnancy and, finally, labor. In the end, Catelynn had this to say about choosing adoption:

“Giving my child up for adoption was the hardest thing I’ll have to do in my life…. I just did what my heart told me to do. I think that Carly’s gonna one day come to me and Tyler and tell us, ‘thank you.’ I’m at peace with my decision.”

For teens who aren’t ready or able to be parents, adoption can be the most loving thing to choose.

Check out this Sex, Etc. story about another teen who chose adoption.