Geez...

I remember when I was in the 5th grade and the girls and the boys were divided up to learn about sex ed. I remember how the female teacher (who was my music teacher) taught us and I think she did a good job. She talked about tampons and pads and how a period feels like "peeing." Of course, I had no idea what she was talking about. Then I had my period a year later and I knew exactly what she was talking about. The first word I said was "geez." I don't know why I said that word, but I'm not the type of person that swears and swears.

Now that I think about it, sex education is very important, especially for teens whose parents don't talk to them about it. Those days where you just don't care how to put on a condom correctly on a guy or you ignore what a STD is...can you imagine asking your parents how to put on a condom correctly? Yes, the wooden penis isn't exactly "great" but what can you do. I had to find out more about sex on my own because my parents don't really talk about it. I'm Asian and I have the type of parents who don't hold hands anymore or say "I love you." They're awesome parents, but trying to talk to them in another language that's not English...about sex...well, that's not going to happen. 

In junior high school sex ed was okay, I don't remember anything, but it was okay. Something that really bothered me in junior high was everyone getting a girlfriend or a boyfriend. A few weeks later? "Oh, I love you." "Love you too." My response? "GEEZ." What was the big deal with everyone going out in junior high? I didn't go out with anyone in junior high while others had about 4 or 5 girl/boyfriends.

So fast forward a couple of years and I'm in high school. This is where we have classes about sex ed, how to put a condom on, etc. The instructor passes around these fake breasts/testicles to feel for lumps and we're all laughing and giggling. I mean, I had pretty decent sex ed classes once I think about it. Sex ed is so important because where else would you learn about it? I remember one day in the paper reading about this 15 year old girl giving birth in her home. She was alone, her parents were out, and she gave birth alone and dumped her baby on a doorstep. My response? "Geez." No one even noticed she was pregnant, she apparently wore baggy clothes to school and her parents didn't even notice at home. Where was the sex ed classes she took? Why did she have sex? I guess we'll never know. 

I'm not going to have sex until I get married. Why? Because I guess that's just me. A little bit of me knows that sex is more than danger and risk, it's about pleasure and love and so much more. But I still won't have sex until I'm married. Look at all these reality shows now, everyone is hooking up and if you're gay, hey, better chances of you getting on the show. I think sexuality is something everyone has to be comfortable with. If one of my friend's are gay, I don't care, but I know others who'll feel awkward.

Now I'm in university and a nursing student. There are about 30 male students taking nursing each year. When I left high school and went into nursing and saw there were guys, yeah, I thought a couple were gay. Why? I don't know, but it's just what I thought. I think it's a stereotype that won't go away for a few years. I think everyone discovers who they are when they think about what makes them happy and loved. I think if people are unsure of who they are, they experiment and figure it out. I think sex ed should talk more about being gay and how it's different than a girl/guy relationship. I don't think any of my sex ed classes talked about people being gay.

Yes, sex is more than danger and risk, so much more. Being a virgin when it seems like everyone else is doing it, well, I've never felt like just having sex just because everyone else is doing it. I don't care. It's not like sex is number one on my to-do list. What's number one on my to-do list? Finishing university. Get my driver's license. Learn to cook. Simple things that don't even need to be written down. I'm not going to have sex after meeting someone for a few weeks. I'm not going to have sex and get pregnant. I'm not going to have sex until I get married.

Geez...I don't think sex is that big of a deal.