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I think I might be lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender and am really stressed out. Can you help me?

It’s normal for people to feel stressed out when they realize or think they might be lesbian, gay, or bisexual and/or transgender. If you are lesbian, gay, bisexual and/or transgender, you should be able to celebrate, not feel stressed out about it! But we know that that’s not always the case.

So what you need to know is that you are not alone. There are lots of lesbian, gay, bisexual and/or transgender teens out there and lots of teens who are questioning their sexual orientation. So, there are lots of places you can go to for support.

Here are some great Web sites and hotlines to try:

• Youth Resource—for gay, lesbian, bisexual and questioning youth.

• Bisexual Resource Center—for the bisexual community.

• The National Coalition for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender Youth www.outproud.org for lesbian, gay, and bisexual teens; www.transproud.org for transgender teens.

• The Trevor Project for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning Teens is a great hotline and Web site. This hotline specializes in helping GLBTQ teens who are contemplating suicide. The telephone number is 1-866-4-U-TREVOR (488-7386). This hotline is open 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

• The Gay and Lesbian National Hotline is both a Web site and a toll-free, nationwide hotline: 1-888-THE-GLNH (843-4564). This resource can be accessed online at www.glnh.org. Important: This hotline is NOT open 24 hours. It offers peer counseling Monday through Friday, between 4:00 p.m. and midnight, and Saturdays, from noon to 5:00 p.m. E.T.

If you need a different type of hotline, check out our list here.

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RE: We All Have Our Problems

Posted by: DanR on May 5th, 2008 12:41pm

Relationships can be such a difficult thing because they
involved the thoughts and feelings of 2 people, which may
not always be the same. The most important thing for you to
do is take care of yourself. Talk to your friends about your
feelings, and make sure you are going on with your everyday
life. It may seem difficult at times, but it is the
healthiest thing you can do for yourself. Your boyfriend
will figure what is best for him, so you should also do what
is best for you. Hang in there!

We All Have Our Problems

Posted by: TheSexCrew on May 4th, 2008 4:05pm

My boyfrined dumped me and said that he's sexually confused.
But I still really love him but no one knows it.What am I
supposed to do?

RE: im not sure

Posted by: DanR on Apr 18th, 2008 12:31pm

You are the only person who can decide who you want to date.
Adolescence is a time for growing and changing and this
includes understanding your sexual orientation. There is
nothing nasty about liking boys and girls. Take your time
to get to know yourself and don't feel rushed to put a label
on yourself such as gay, lesbian or bisexual. Check out
some of the resources above and take your time to figure it
out. There is no deadline.

im not sure

Posted by: selena! on Apr 16th, 2008 12:22am

i have a boyfriend. but i like girls to. i dont know wht one
to date or who to pick. does this mean im nasty? wht do i
do? who do i pick?

RE: Dont know if i should/how to come out..

Posted by: DanR on Mar 19th, 2008 11:35am

It's OK not to know. Some people know from a young age.
Others think they know and then discover differently as they
get older. Still others are confused and explore different
relationships to figure it out. Don't rush into putting a
label on yourself. Take time to explore your thoughts and
feelings without trying to fit into any one category.
You'll know when it's time to attach a name to your
feelings.

Dont know if i should/how to come out..

Posted by: VarsitySoccerCutie07 on Mar 19th, 2008 1:35am

Im in my junior year of highschool now and i couldnt be more
happy and in love with my bestfriend of 4 years, whos also
been my girlfriend of 8 months. we've kept it a secret this
whole time from all our friend, our soccer team, and parents
in fear of mistreatment and stuff. We accidently fell in
love over the summer and shes the only girl ill ever be
involved with, and shes the only girl iv/will ever be
attracted to. yet i still am attracted to guys. What does
this make me? straight? bi? idk!!!

RE: so i have a bf, but am crushing hard for this girl

Posted by: DanR on Mar 12th, 2008 12:36pm

What you are feeling is perfectly normal and OK. Some
people have sexual thoughts or experiences with people of
the same gender when they are young, but grow up to be
heterosexual. And, some have sexual thoughts or experiences
with people of the opposite gender when they are young, but
grow up to be homosexual. Many people--teens and
adults--have sexual thoughts or fantasies about people of
the same gender without necessarily being gay. Don't rush to
put a label on yourself.

so i have a bf, but am crushing hard for this girl

Posted by: jenniex3 on Mar 11th, 2008 10:36pm

my bf and i have been together for over two years. we've had
our hard times and i believe i really do love him. but
lately there is this one girl who is absolutly adorable. i
cannot stop thinking about her. i really dont know what to
do because i care about my bf so much. i dont know how to
explain my sexual orientation or anything. im more confused
than i have ever been in my life.

RE: i think i might be bi

Posted by: DanR on Feb 29th, 2008 11:30am

Not a problem. You are certainly not alone. Hopefully you
have checked out some of the many web sites that we have
linked to up above. Additionally, I would suggest seeing if
your school has a Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA) that has
meetings you might be able to attend to get to know other
people. Good luck!

i think i might be bi

Posted by: cheeringrocks on Feb 28th, 2008 9:24pm

i have walked through school and town and find guys and
girls attractive.i need help finding someone to be with.

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