“I WAS opposed to gays and lesbians, but last year I realized that the one thing I didn't want to be was judged, and I was the one doing the judging.”
—Tessa, 16, Meherrin, VA
What is love? Is it the same as lust?
Tough question. There are lots of different kinds of love-- romantic, parental, platonic. Mostly, love is feeling emotionally attached to another person. You want to be close to that person. You want to share things with them, understand them and have them understand you. You want to care for them and have them care for you. Romantic love usually comes with a strong physical or sexual attraction. You want to hold, touch and sometimes become sexual with that person.
Lust is physical attraction. Lust can sometimes turn into love. Often, when two people are first getting together, they have a really strong physical connection. When two people fall in love, lust may fade over time but it’s replaced with a deeper, more intimate emotional connection.
When you’re falling in love, it’s often tough to tell the difference between the two. Usually, time tells.
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Your Comments
RE: Can it work?
Posted by: DanR on Jun 9th, 2008 3:15pm
It sounds like you both have a lot going on in your lives.
You are in your senior year of High School. He is going to
college. Plus a marriage proposal! No one will be able to
tell you if this will work or not…no one can ever be
certain a marriage will work out. I do think that both of
you should really take a look at where you are in life right
now and what you want to achieve. Talk to some adults who
know you both well and see what they think too. Good Luck!
Can it work?
Posted by: Bryant10 on Jun 6th, 2008 6:36pm
I've been going out with this guy for about 3 years now(most
of my high school years and now I'm a senior and he is going
to college. and I love him and he loves me recently he asked
me to marry him and I'm thinking yes this is the guy I want
to spend the rest of my life with but will it work?
can i love him?
Posted by: tinababii33 on Mar 25th, 2008 12:05am
our friend ship was rocky at first. i dident feel for him
cuz he was lyin to me about another girl. but he straight up
told me n he felt bad. so we made it official than broke up
2 weeks later cuz too much drama wit other people tryin to
git in the way. but we hav been still talkin for the past 5
months, like we are bf & gf. but not officialy together. all
his words & actions got me soo atatched & i fell hard for
him. he was my everything. even tho we arent togther can i
still love him?
what is love?: response
Posted by: nakibritish on Mar 12th, 2008 10:47pm
to me love is the feeling you get when you really want to be
with someone, not just for sex but to talk to, laugh with
and just enjoy their company. the feeling is also mutual
between you and that person and i think love comes in all
shapes and sizes. when you want to be with someone for sex,
that's lust but when you're in love with someone, you try
you're best to give that person you're body, heart, mind and
soul. don't get the two mixed up
RE: My friend and me.
Posted by: DanR on Mar 10th, 2008 12:53pm
It sounds like you have a lot going on, and only you can
decide what is the right decision to make in this case. You
don't have to rush to put a label on yourself or on your
feelings. I would suggest being honest with everyone
involved (including yourself) about what your feelings are
for each of them and decide what you want to do based on
that. I hope that you are using protection from pregnancy
and STDs with both your boyfriend & your best friend (to not
complicate the situation further).
My friend and me.
Posted by: Whantsomecandy on Mar 7th, 2008 6:35pm
I guess im bi, not to sure. But i have a boyfriend, and im
very much in love with him(have been for 3 years now).
Although, i have this bestfriend that i "fool" around with,
sometimes, she express that she is in love with me, but were
2 years apart, and i think that shes to young to know what
love is. I dont want to put a strain on your friendship or
phycial realtionship. But im not in love with her, what
should i do?
RE: love
Posted by: gray.scale27 on Jan 1st, 2008 5:41pm
I think it is different when you get older. When you are
young like 5 vs. 11, it seems like a HUGE difference. but
when you are 16 vs 22, is seems a bit less. it is still a
pretty big gap in ages. mostly if you are still a teen under
18. You have to be careful with that...
j
...oh it is love...
Posted by: 17ab171717 on Dec 25th, 2007 5:36pm
ah lust... such a wonderful thing. i never really felt
anything else but that till now.. now i have the besssst
boyfriend i could even dream about! he's been there for me
through it all. and yeah weve done everything now and that
used to make me scared but i just love making him happy.
weve got it both.
love
Posted by: shibainu#1 on Sep 16th, 2007 5:10pm
i'm in love with a guy 6 years older than me. Freaky,right?
BUt its true. Besides, he's still in his 20's, so its not
like i'm reaching for the stars here--my parents are 20
years apart for crying out loud!
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Re: can i love him?
Posted by: aveaveave on Jul 16th, 2008 12:39am
It seems like you still do. Try to imagine what will happen
to you both in teh future if you let your feelings free.
Think what would he say or do if he found out that you still
love him? And even if you're not officially together do you
think he still loves you too? Think about those and then
you'll know what's the right choice.