First, know that you’re not alone. A lot of teens feel pressured to drink or do drugs (illegal and prescription) when they really don’t want to. While it can feel like everyone’s doing it, studies show that teens think more people are drinking and using drugs than actually are. Lots of teens find ways to say no.

You could try a straightforward approach. Just say, “I don’t feel like drinking, smoking or doing drugs tonight.”

“My parent(s)/guardian(s) would kill me if they found out, and they always find out!”
“No, I’m not into that stuff.”
“I’ve tried it, and I hate the taste.”
“Drinking or doing drugs would make me feel out of control, and I hate that.”
“I have something important to do tomorrow and don’t want to be out of it.”

Be firm; you might have to say the same thing a few times for it to sink in. If they keep pressuring you, you can try changing the subject. “Did you go to the game last night?” or, “Hey, did you see the pictures I posted on Facebook?”

If all else fails, go home. Just say, “I have to go.” Even if you lose this friend, it’s better than being pushed into something that you don’t want and can hurt you. Real friends will respect your decision not to drink or do drugs and will support you in that decision.

It’s usually easier if you stay away from situations where alcohol and other drugs are available. This removes a lot of the pressure.