I’m gay and have been harassed in school. What can I do?

In a perfect world, people would accept other people for who they are. But the reality is that many people view lesbian, gay, and bisexual people as “deviant” or “wrong.” They think heterosexuality is the only legitimate sexual orientation. And this has been going on for a long time. Up until 1973, homosexuality was considered a psychological disorder by the American Psychiatric Association.

This social attitude means that lots of gay teens like you get harassed. They deal with daily taunting in the hallways. Or, worse, they get beat up and suffer other kinds of violence. (Because of this harassment, many gay teens are scared to approach someone they like. And they have a higher suicide rate than heterosexual teens.) Much of this totally unacceptable behavior comes out of fear. People are often afraid of things they don’t understand or things that threaten what they see as “right” or “normal.”

No matter the reason, it’s never OK to harass or hurt another person simply because of who he or she is. No one has the right to hurt another person, either emotionally or physically. And no one should be discriminated against because of his or her race, gender, age, physical abilities—or sexual orientation.

If you can, talk to your parents or another trusted adult about what’s happening at school. Maybe they’ll talk with your school principal. If you can’t go to your parents, then you should talk to the principal alone. Schools have an obligation to provide a safe place for all students. They are obligated under law to stop the harassment.

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Your Comments

RE: harrassed for being lesbian/bi

Posted by: DanR on Jan 9th, 2008 10:52am

I am sorry to hear that this is happening to you, but I am
glad that you found our site. We do understand that not
everyone is straight and we celebrate that. Understanding
your sexual orientation is a process, and you should feel
forced into putting a label on yourself. I suggest talking
to a trusted adult at school and let them know what it going
on. You can also check out this link to get some ideas on
how to make a difference in your school:
http://www.sexetc.org/page/difference_glbtq.

harrassed for being lesbian/bi

Posted by: RavingRaven on Jan 8th, 2008 4:46pm

I am still in the process of 'realizing' my true sexuality,
yet idiots in my school have labelled me as a "Dyke" (which
is a word I personally find very offensive) and shout abuse
at me in the corridors. I don't see what's so bad or
disgusting about it. They treat it as though I'm doing
something wrong to think about being anything other than
straight. I'm glad the people here seem to understand that
questioning yourself does not mean you are gay.

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