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I have a crush... well, we fooled around and we're both girls. Am I gay?
It's impossible for me to say whether you're gay. During the teen years and young adulthood, many people struggle to discover who they are and that includes trying to figure out whether they're gay (homosexual), straight (heterosexual) or bi (bisexual).
Some people have sexual experiences with people of the same gender when they are young, but grow up to be heterosexual. And, some have sexual experiences with people of the opposite gender when they are young, but grow up to be homosexual.
Many people—teens and adults—have sexual thoughts or fantasies about people of the same gender without necessarily being gay.
A person's sexual orientation is something that develops over time. Your feelings, not just behaviors, will eventually help you figure out whether you're gay, straight or bisexual.
It's probably a bad idea to label yourself now. Just try to figure out how you feel toward different people and in different situations. Try to figure out what makes you happy. If your feelings continue to worry you, check out a counselor or other professional you can talk to who can help you sort things out. Or call the National Gay and Lesbian Hotline at 1-800-221-7044. They can help.
Some people have sexual experiences with people of the same gender when they are young, but grow up to be heterosexual. And, some have sexual experiences with people of the opposite gender when they are young, but grow up to be homosexual.
Many people—teens and adults—have sexual thoughts or fantasies about people of the same gender without necessarily being gay.
A person's sexual orientation is something that develops over time. Your feelings, not just behaviors, will eventually help you figure out whether you're gay, straight or bisexual.
It's probably a bad idea to label yourself now. Just try to figure out how you feel toward different people and in different situations. Try to figure out what makes you happy. If your feelings continue to worry you, check out a counselor or other professional you can talk to who can help you sort things out. Or call the National Gay and Lesbian Hotline at 1-800-221-7044. They can help.
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Your Comments
RE: Fancying other girls
Posted by: DanR on Jan 8th, 2008 9:59am
As you read above, sexual orientation is something that
develops over time, so there is no need to rush into
labeling yourself. Feel what you feel, and know that
whoever you are attracted to, you are completely normal.
Also, only you can decide what is best to do with the
situation with your friends. You should consider if you are
comfortable telling them how they feel, how they might
react, and if you are willing to risk the friendship if they
react in a negative way.
Fancying other girls
Posted by: katkin20 on Jan 7th, 2008 7:32pm
Yeah,I know exactly what you mean,a few friends of mine who
were girls I started having sexual feelimgs for which was
worrying as we are best friends and it makes it really
awkward. What should I do?
ugh!!!!!
Posted by: deannalover2006 on Oct 21st, 2007 6:51pm
okay, i've always been tolerant of anyone; my motto is
this:
i don't care if you're black, white, gay, straight,
rcih or poor. as long as you can repspect me, you'll get the
same from me.
i realized how tolerant i was at 11 and have
always been proud of it. i thought i was boy crazy, until i
was 13 going on 14. i had a few girl crushes on actresses
and something else happened. it wasn't sex, but it was
basically fooling. now i'm more confused than ever, but i
try not to worry about labels.
Girl crushes
Posted by: VirginOnTheVerge on Sep 2nd, 2007 10:38pm
One girl crush doesn't mean you're gay, but it could mean
that you're beginning to feel that you are. I've had a
bunch of them, and I'm still not certain as to what sexual
orientation I am. One day, I'll know for sure, but until
then, I'm just seeing what's out there, and what's right for
me. You'll find out in good time :)
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the crush
Posted by: vissha455 on Jan 24th, 2008 2:12pm
you could be if your looking at other girls diffrently or
having wet dream about her.but i thought i was gay before
too.till i found out i've never thought of a girl in that
manner.so it might pass.or you are starting to see with new
eyes.