In general, it’s easier for guys to reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse than it is for girls. Girls—regardless of the type of sex they’re having or the gender of their partner—usually need more time and touch to have an orgasm. They need to have their clitoris, a small bump of skin above the opening of the vagina, touched and rubbed. And that doesn’t always happen when a penis is in a girl’s vagina, also known as sexual intercourse. However, many couples do make sure to touch the girl’s clitoris during sex. She can touch herself in the way that she likes, or she can teach her partner to touch her clitoris. This is more likely to feel good and bring about an orgasm.

Of course, orgasm shouldn’t be the only goal of getting physical. Sex should bring the intimate pleasure of being close to another person. But, there’s no denying that orgasms are something that most people find really pleasurable, and couples should try to understand what makes their partner feel good.