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How do lesbians have sex? Do lesbians need to practice safer sex?

Lesbians, bisexuals, and any girls who are sexual with other girls can give and express pleasure in many, many ways. Just like there is no one "right" way for heterosexuals to have sex, there is no one "right" way for lesbians to have sex.

What two girls do to have sex depends on what feels good for them. Too often, heterosexuals think that the only way to have sex is to put a penis into a vagina, but that may not be the activity that brings the most pleasure to the two people.

Lesbians, bisexuals, and other girls touch each others' bodies by using their fingers, mouths (oral sex), and various body parts. Sometimes two girls kiss, touch each others' breasts, and touch the clitoris and other sensitive areas around the outside or inside of the vagina or anus with their fingers or sex toys. Sometimes they use their fingers or sex toys to penetrate the vaginal or anal opening (anal sex). Many girls also rub their vulvas against each other; this is called "tribadism."

It is possible to transmit sexually transmitted diseases through many of these practices, so read up on safer sex here.

When two people can communicate well, whether they are straight, bi, or gay, they can experience a huge range of sexual activities that are mutually agreed on, pleasureful, and creative.

Your Comments

im a lesbain

Posted by: x0TooTSi3BaBi30x on Aug 21st, 2008 4:54am

me im personally a lesbian im 15 years old and i have been
with the same female since sept 10 of 07 and we have tlked
about messing around and stuff. first we started off as just
fingering one another and then we moved on to eating each
othe rout once we felt good about it. its all about how you
feel. either way its just as pleasureable

RE: I don't know how to get physical with my girlfriend.

Posted by: DanR on Jul 8th, 2008 10:14am

There is no right or wrong way to get physical with your
girlfriend. What one person may find enjoyable, another
person may not. The most important thing in making any
sexual experience enjoyable is communication. Talk to your
partner about what feels good to her and what feels good to
you. Then, both of you can learn from each other. You
should also be talking about how you will practice safer sex
with your partner. Keep those lines of communication open!

I don't know how to get physical with my girlfriend.

Posted by: prfctlyflwd on Jul 3rd, 2008 2:17pm

i recently came out as a lesbian and i have had the same
girlfriend for about two months now, and i want to take our
relationship to the next level. she is alot more experienced
with girls than i am so how do i go about sex with her? i
know the basics and stuff, but im used to fooling around
with guys, and i dont want to look like a retard when im
with her.

RE: I wanna have oral sex with my girlfriend.

Posted by: DanR on Jun 23rd, 2008 8:51am

In order for any kind of sexual activity to take place, it
is important for BOTH partners to feel ready and
comfortable. There are many emotional and physical risks
involved, including the possibility of STDs, and she may not
be ready to take that risk. If you really feel strongly
about this, I suggest you start by having a conversation
with your girlfriend about how you feel and see how she
feels. If you decide you are both ready, then you should
also talk about how you will protect yourselves.

I wanna have oral sex with my girlfriend.

Posted by: bbygirl on Jun 21st, 2008 7:29am

Im bi, I have a girlfriend she's 15, I'm 13, we've fingered
eachother, and we make-out a lot, but....I wanna have oral
sex already....I've never had it before, What do I do?

RE: How do i?

Posted by: DanR on Mar 5th, 2008 9:34am

It sounds like you have a lot going on right now, and I'm
glad you thought of us as a resource. I want you know that
you should not feel pressured to label yourself as straight,
lesbian, or bisexual. Feel what you feel, and know that
whoever you are attracted to, you are completely normal.
You'll know when it's time to attach a name to your
feelings. There is no right or wrong answer to your
situation, and only you can decide what is best for you!
Hang in there!

How do i?

Posted by: Whantsomecandy on Mar 4th, 2008 10:02pm

Im not to sure if im bi or what i am, im 15 and currently in
a realtionship with a man, although ive hooked up with a
girl doing tribadism. I enjoyed it and done it servral
times. Im afaid to tell anyone, because im not to sure if i
am my slef bi, or what. I dont know what to do. Im in love
with my boyfirend but in enjoy the girl action, and im for
sure that im not in love with her. Someone please help me.

RE: is this wrong?

Posted by: DanR on Jan 9th, 2008 12:39pm

Unfortunately this is a decision that only you can make.
Regardless of your age or your sexual orientation, you have
to do what is best for you. A few thoughts: depending on
where you live, there may be some legal issues around the
age of consent with you and your partners. See this link
for specifics in your state: http://www.sexetc.org/state. I
also hope that you are protecting yourself and your partners
against pregnancy and STDs. See our FAQ's on birth control
and STDs for more info.

is this wrong?

Posted by: notworried on Dec 30th, 2007 11:55pm

i am a grl under 18 and have an 18 y old bf and I also have
a 17 yr old gf. I am bi and 15. But I like having sex with
my bf but my gf is better going down on me. what should I
do?

Am I Bi?

Posted by: sariam on Sep 29th, 2007 12:55am

I hav a crush on this really hot guy, and sumtmes i dream of
havin sex of him. But a lot of the time i dream of kissing
him but in my dreams, his face morphs into a girl and i end
up dreamin of sex with them. It scared me at first but im
used to it now. but i still wonder, Am i Bi?

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