Sex, Etc. -- I feel I'm homosexual and don't want to be....

I feel I'm homosexual and don't want to be. Can I change my sexual orientation?

Basically, your sexual orientation is something that is part of you – just like the color of your eyes and the shape of your nose. So, in general, no, you can’t change your sexual orientation.

Some conservative and religious groups claim people can change their sexual orientation through prayer or therapy. But this just isn't true. People might change their sexual behavior. Maybe they start having sex with a member of a different gender. Or, they might stop having sex altogether. But, that doesn't change their inner feelings of who they find attractive.

In other cases, people’s understanding of their sexual orientation changes. Our society generally accepts being heterosexual as “normal.” That puts a lot of pressure on lesbian, gay and bisexual people to suppress their true feelings and try to fit in. It seems easier, even if it means being someone you’re not. A lot of times, though, people realize they can’t pretend for their whole life. So, they come out. They haven’t “become” lesbian, gay or bisexual. They’ve just accepted who they are.

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I've got to say I agree with B I G C

Posted by: JuSdOiNmE on Dec 27th, 2007 4:01am

When i was little i knew i was different but i couldn't
figure out the name for what I felt.Once I turned 13 I
finally knew for CERTAIN i was bisexual. For a long time i
hated myself(partly becuz I am apart of a very church
oriented family and also because i hated the thought of
being an outcast),but when I reached out to God and asked
him to take away my desires for females,he did it. No it
didn't happen over nite but once I committed to leaving that
life alone God took every desire away.

Choosing

Posted by: Cardiganmoose on Oct 12th, 2007 8:18pm

People seem to be talking as if you are Gay or Straight,
that is it, as if you can be atrracted to only one gender at
a time. Attraction runs the gaunlet, from a man who is only
attracted to other men, to a man who is attracted solely to
women. There is a spectrum of attractions. You can be dating
a girl and still check out a guy, and not be gay and vica
versa. You do not need to choose immeadiatly what you are,
you need not define yourself by whom you are attracted to.

Sorry B I G C

Posted by: goodrumwill6 on Oct 9th, 2007 1:12am

You sound just like one of those people in the Christian
propoganda videos who make up stories to make it seem like
you changed. There is nothing to change a homosexual into a
heteralsexual. If you believe otherwise, then you are hiding
who you really are and that may end up coming back to you in
your future. Plenty of "straight" guys end up divorced
because they run off with other guys. That usually breaks up
innocent families which is really sad.

its your choice

Posted by: TL on Oct 4th, 2007 5:02pm

if you think your gay then that doesnt mean any thing. im
gay and iv had a crush on my friend whose a girl. that
doesnt make me straight or bi it just means i have a crush
my friend. it all depends on what you think and how you
feel.

Sexual Orientation

Posted by: VirginOnTheVerge on Sep 2nd, 2007 10:41pm

Sometimes, you may wonder about your sexual orientation and
be afraid of what it could be. It may take a while to know
for sure, so just keep an open mind, and it'll all turn out
the way it's meant to turn out :)

Hey

Posted by: B I G C on Jun 18th, 2007 8:50am

To tell you the truth from the ages 7 to 9 i was gay & knew
it. I stuggled with it because i didnt want to be gay. Not
just because im christain it just didnt feel right to me at
all. After fighting with it for three years I finaly prayed
to God to make me strait. befor then i didnt really beleive
in god. But something happend to i had lost my strong
feeling to guys i found myself really liking girls a few
days later ever since then I have been straight & became a
stonger christian.

sad

Posted by: TasteOfInk on May 19th, 2007 9:08pm

It's sad that a lot of people don't understand that you
can't just CHOOSE not to be gay. I have a few gay friends,
and my closest gay friend hid it for a long time. People
don't choose to be a part of something that can make them
hated by a lot of people. Gay people want to be accepted,
just like everyone else. They love the same as straight
people. There is nothing wrong with it.

A Gay teens comment

Posted by: Democrat on Apr 8th, 2007 10:16pm

I must aggree with this web sites opition becasue I did not
choose to be gay. I did not choose who to romaticly fall in
love with. If you choose who you love then you do not really
love somone. I never heard somone say being hetorsexual was
a choice so why are some people are picking and blaming
gays. I belive is becasue this goverment is run by people
that rather govern the chirstan bible then the U.S
goverment.

Two things

Posted by: Edengoth on Mar 30th, 2007 2:25am

1) This should also be in the GLBT grouping...it fits
well. 2) odette1989...are you attracted primarily to girls?
I didn't think so. It's not about who you decide to sleep
with once, but who you are attracted to...I'd know...I'm
gay. Ever heard of gays who wish they were straight? Now
tell me it's a mindset. Sorry to sound so harsh, but don't
say things if you don't know what you're talking
about...also, I prayed to Jesus wholeheartedly to make me
straight for three years...didn't work!

Changing sexual orientation

Posted by: ELSmith on Mar 16th, 2007 9:12pm

It's not as simple as "deciding" whether or not to be gay,
lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered. These are very real
categories and people don't just decide their sexual
orientations. It's not that LGBTQ people can't attract the
opposite gender- it's that they don't desire to, in most
cases! There are many LGBTQ people who are religious and may
seek Jesus or another higher power for a number of reasons,
but it usually doesn't work to "change" sexual orientation.

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