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I cum really fast when I'm having sex. What can I do?

It's really normal for young guys to orgasm and ejaculate (cum) quickly. The average is only two minutes. True premature ejaculation is when you ejaculate within a few seconds. (Orgasm and ejaculation usually happen at the same time, but not always.)

There are a few things you can do to slow things down:

Wear a condom from start to finish. This will reduce your sensitivity. Remember to use latex, since that also protects you and your partner from sexual transmitted diseases. Some condoms have a desensitization cream (aka, "climax control lubricant") that may be helpful.
Masturbate before having sex. It usually takes longer the second time for a guy to reach orgasm.
Take a break. When you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, stop and give your body time to relax. Focus on your partner in another way.
Try the "squeeze technique." Try gently squeezing the base or head of the penisbefore you get too close to orgasm. You can also gently pull the testicles lower when they start to hug the body. If this hurts your penis or testicles, then stop and try other methods instead.

This all takes time and practice, so be patient!

Your Comments

Blegh.

Posted by: Divine on Oct 19th, 2008 10:06am

I like last 30 seconds, to a minute. I think theres
something REALLY wrong with me. :(.

RE: Too long

Posted by: DanR on Mar 25th, 2008 8:38am

This is actually very common, so don't be worried. Ask
yourself: does it take me that long to ejaculate (cum) when
I masturbate? If the answer is yes, then that may just be
the way your body works. If the answer is no, then you may
want to try different sexual positions that will feel
different. To try to keep your partner from getting
frustrated, make sure you are pleasuring them as well during
this time. If you start feeling pressure to cum quicker, it
may only make the situation worse.

Too long

Posted by: Sythe_ZN on Mar 22nd, 2008 2:32pm

I don't know if it's a common problem, but i usually take
45min - an hour to cum... I find my partner gets frustrated.
is there anything I can do?

Re: Masturbate

Posted by: sheisntreal9 on Jan 4th, 2008 3:58pm

you can masturbate at any age. you don't have to be over 18.
most men start around 14. you may be told that its wrong to
masturbate, but it all depends on your beliefs.

Masturbate

Posted by: tnhngle on Sep 16th, 2007 6:56am

Is it O.K. if you masturbate under 18?

is there a way to train your slef to hol din longer

Posted by: Tmnto0o on Jul 2nd, 2007 11:51pm

i was wondering is there a way to trian your penis to hold
cum in longer because iv tried yanking b4 she comes over and
i still last about 2-4 mins and iv also tried relaxing it as
we r doing soemthign and fokus on something els but she has
never really done this be4 and i cant get it the sto its to
hot so is there a way to train my penis to hold in cum
longer cuse she gets nothign out of it and i cant let her
feel that way and yes i tried 4 play

UMMMM I HAVE THE OPPISITE PROBLEM

Posted by: MARVALOUS on Jun 30th, 2007 9:38pm

IT TAKES ME WAY TOO LONG TO CUM....AND MY PARTNER ALWAYS
GETS ALL THE PLEASURE....IS THERE SOM3THING WRONG WITH
ME???.....IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO TO GET AN ORGASM
FASTER??

Oh yeah

Posted by: Ineed101 on May 12th, 2007 12:08am

And when you say stop & take time to relax, do you mean
completely stop or just slow down???? Ok im done.lol

Ejaculating when masturbating

Posted by: Ineed101 on May 12th, 2007 12:06am

If you cum fast when you are masturbating, does that mean
that you will also cum fast when you are having sex? &
sometimes after I cum,my testicles start hurting... Is that
normal? & are there any exercises i can do to make me not
ejaculate as quick?

RE: not sure

Posted by: StacieS on May 4th, 2007 11:19am

we wrote this FAQ because it is a frequently asked question
from both girls and guys. we think it is important that
couples talk about what is important to them BOTH, whether
that's intimacy and/or orgasm and/or abstinence. each person
in a couple will have their own needs and desires. thanks
for asking!

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