I have a crush... well, we fooled around and we're both guys. Am I gay?

It's impossible for me to say whether you're gay. During the teen years and young adulthood, many people struggle to discover who they are and that includes trying to figure out whether they're gay (homosexual), straight (heterosexual) or bi (bisexual).

Some people have sexual experiences with people of the same gender when they are young, but grow up to be heterosexual. And, some have sexual experiences with people of the opposite gender when they are young, but grow up to be homosexual.

Many people—teens and adults—have sexual thoughts or fantasies about people of the same gender without necessarily being gay. 

A person's sexual orientation is something that develops over time. Your feelings, not just behaviors, will eventually help you figure out whether you're gay, straight or bisexual.

It's probably a bad idea to label yourself now. Just try to figure out how you feel toward different people and in different situations. Try to figure out what makes you happy. If your feelings continue to worry you, check out a counselor or other professional you can talk to who can help you sort things out. Or call the National Gay and Lesbian Hotline at 1-800-221-7044. They can help.

Your Comments

Bi or Gay?

Posted by: Shuree on Jul 9th, 2008 11:59am

I know for sure that I'm not straight,but I have no idea
rather I'm gay or Bi. I"ve always felt the attraction to
guys and to girls,but I kept it a secret and wasn't sure
about my feelings. I had my first boyfriend and was happy
but, I felt the need to be with a girl and I wanted to. When
I had my first girlfriend I felt freer, i was more in tune
with my emotions and it felt way more natural with a girl
than a boy..so I still have no idea and I don't want to
label myself.

Bisexuality

Posted by: Just-Me on Apr 5th, 2008 1:59pm

i think the Bisexuality is the "Original" sexuality, and
people changed over hundreds of years, hiding their
feelings.. i think some emotional experiences come into it
too.. but this is only a crazy theory.. but what i do know
is that bonobos,(a type of ape thats one of the closest to
humans)they have sex with either.. they dont mind.. they are
all bisexual.. dont hate being gay.. just open your
sexuality fully.. try it all. if u dont like it, its fine..
if society cant accept, its theyr prob.

doesnt matter what you are: Response

Posted by: StacieS on Jul 27th, 2007 12:23pm

That's right. Most people aren't 100% gay or 100% straight,
but rather feel somewhere in between. Kinsey first proved
this in this research:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale Later, Klein
created the Klein grid that showed how complex humans can be
as well:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Klein_Sexual_Orientation_Grid
Enjoy!

doesnt matter what you are

Posted by: samatdunk on Jul 27th, 2007 6:12am

I have heard that you can be about 70% women and thirty%
men, or the other way round.

iloveryden...

Posted by: Brookaliscious on Jul 14th, 2007 9:10pm

I am the same way. I have been with my boyfriend for 3
years, but for some reason, I don't get turned on when two
guys kiss compared to girls. I honestly don't think that
anything is wrong with it. I don't have sexual feelings
towards girls, but I have "experimented" when I was in high
school. But, then again, who hasn't? I think it is totally
normal and that you, me (and everyone else who feels like
this)doesn't have anything to worry about. :)

not sure... :/

Posted by: iloveryden on Jul 12th, 2007 2:14am

i am a girl. when girls kiss it turns me on. i get more
turned on by a girl than a guy. but yet, i don't ever feel
the true attraction for a girl as i do a guy. i've felt i've
been in love with a guy. but never once do i think i had
like a crush on a girl before. it's very confusing. but
hopefully i'll figure it out some day.

Gay or not?

Posted by: susanna on Jun 17th, 2007 2:40am

I have also indulged in sexual activity with lots of other
girls especially when I was at school but I do not consider
myself to be a lesbian. My boyfriend can confirm that I am
anything but gay and he too admits to sexual activity with
other boys and I can certainly vouch for the fact that he is
100% hetrosexual. Enjoy both genders if possible, Susanna

Dont be worried...

Posted by: Marcham89 on Apr 4th, 2007 11:04pm

Im turning 14 and lots of other people worry about there
orientation. I've spent countless hours talking to my self
saying stuff like. Girls and Sex. That would be fun! Guys??
Maybe... We all worry and the fact is most people wont stop.

INteresting

Posted by: odette1989 on Mar 15th, 2007 9:23pm

Well just because you had an experience with a memeber of
the same sex doesn't mean anything...as you can see your
body reacts to many feelings..be it sexual or whatever..so
what you could have been feeling could just been the spear
of the moment..dah..

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