There are some problems with teens dating guys who are four or more years older than they are and you need to make sure you are aware of them before you decide what you should do.

The first is very important for you to think about. Why is a man many years older wanting to date you? It may be that he cares about you. But it may also be that he has a need to have power. Because you are younger and less experienced in life than he is, you will be easier for him have power over. Often, when older guys date younger teens, there is more pressure on the teen to have sex and more pressure to drink (in some states, if the guy is over 18, he can do it legally). You might drift away from your friends because the older guy finds them too young and you may later regret that. Also, in most states, an older guy having sex with a younger teen is against the law. Think about these things before you decide.

For more information, check out the stories written by teens on this topic like  "Older Guys: Dreamy or Dangerous."