Sometimes relationships end, even if strong feelings exist between two people. A couple might discover they have different values or needs in their lives that just don’t fit with the relationship anymore. Sometimes, like when one partner goes to college, couples have to live far apart and the relationship can’t survive the distance or the differences between high school and college. Other times, two people have differences that make the relationship unhealthy for one or both. And sometimes, the connection and feelings fade.

It takes time to know if someone is right for you and even the longest relationships can change because people’s lives change. If you’ve lost interest, it’s worth talking to your partner so you’re both on the same page. Be honest about what you’re feeling, and use “I” statements to describe how you feel. Relationships are about two people and if both aren’t invested, it can easily become unhealthy and miserable for both. Take time to listen to your partner as well. They may have noticed that something’s changed but weren’t sure how to approach it. They also may be hurt or angry, and that’s OK. You can’t control other people’s feelings, but you can do your best to tell people how you feel and what you need.