People who are in love sometimes decide to have sex, but having sex will not guarantee that you or your partner will fall in love. So, if you’re using sex to fall in love, you very well might be disappointed.

Sex means something different to everyone. So does love. Sometimes, having sex makes you feel like you’re in love, but it can be tricky. You think you’re in love because of the way a person makes you feel physically—not because of who they are and what you give to each other emotionally in everyday life.

Also, strange as it sounds, some people find that having sex too soon gets in the way of love developing between two people. When two people have sex quickly, they sometimes get embarrassed and pull away from each other because they feel exposed. Sharing your body openly with someone else can often cause you to feel vulnerable.

The truth is that couples who take their time to become friends before adding sexual behaviors to their relationship often become closer and more intimate on an emotional level, which can lead to a sexual level that feels comfortable, like love.