What does it mean to be a “player?”

A player is someone who dates lots of peopleand maybe gets sexual with somebut doesn’t want a real relationship. Usually, players can be real charming, but they often lie about their true intentions – and that gives them a bad rep.

It’s totally OK to want to date lots of people and stay away from a committed relationship, especially when you’re young and learning what you want. But, it’s important to be honest with anyone you date. Otherwise, you mislead and hurt people, especially if the “playing” includes sex. Using people for sex or exposing them to disease are considered wrong by just about everyone’s standards.

Your Comments

RE: i agree danr

Posted by: DanR on Jul 17th, 2008 3:01pm

I am glad to hear that you are taking your time and that
your boyfriend is not pressuring you to do anything you do
not want to. There is no one "right time" to have sex.
That is something that is different for each person based on
how they feel and what their personal and religious beliefs
are. The only guideline I can offer is that if it doesn't
feel right, it probably isn't the right time for you. So
remember, there is no rush!

i agree danr

Posted by: sanya on Jul 13th, 2008 7:51am

i m in relationship n smtyms imagines goin close 2 my boy
fren he often tells me 2 spend atleast a nite wid him bt he
never force me 2 do nethin i dont intend 2.we are commited 2
each oder.m still a virgin n cudn decide d ryt tym of tellin
yes 4 havin sex...plz help

PLAYA VS. BEEiN A H0E.

Posted by: -ANTM.** on May 28th, 2008 6:55pm

yea see dhatz whut i dnt gett whi when a dude datez or tawks
to alot of gurl itz meant to be a gud thing like oh "he hit
dhat stuff like dhat" and he a playa and he gott game but
when a girl is put into dha same situation people kall her a
hoe and slut. and girls look at her diffrent but for guys
dhats concendered a gud thang. disz really dnt make since to
me!

RE: im 17 and stiil a virgan sometime i lie and say i dont...

Posted by: DanR on Mar 3rd, 2008 10:36am

There are a lot of people out there who are in a situation
similar to you, so I want you and everyone else who feels
this way to know that there is NOTHING wrong with being a
virgin. In fact, I think it is something you should be
proud of. What is important to think about is if this
person that you meet is someone you may eventually have sex
with, than you want to start that relationship off the right
way: be honest! If they really care about you, they will
like you exactly as you are!

im 17 and stiil a virgan sometime i lie and say i dont...

Posted by: zerotheshadow on Mar 2nd, 2008 2:44am

im 17 and stiil a virgan sometime i lie and say i dont when
i meet a girl i like and we start talking about sex i get
scared tthat if she things im a virgin thaqt im a loser or a
dork, if im not a virgin than im a playa what should i do.

my bff

Posted by: stinkymagic on Sep 23rd, 2007 1:41pm

i dated a player....and then we broke up b/c he liked
anotehr chick/ then we became frineds w/ benefits...and he
,moved on so fast, it killed. os dont mess with them

ummm... i dont get it

Posted by: Seriana8 on Jul 24th, 2007 3:47pm

why it is that for guys its called being a "player" and
thats good, and for girls its being a slut?!?! i dont get
it!

I know one of those!!

Posted by: queenbeereg on May 30th, 2007 5:01pm

One of the boys I grew up is what you would call a "player".
He goes out with a girl and if she refuses to get intimate
with him he leaves her, sucks. Especially because he can be
a relly awesome person he just chooses not to be.

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