Sex, Etc. -- All my boyfriend wants is sex, and I consider...

All my boyfriend wants is sex, and I consider myself a little too young. How can I tell him that I don't want to have sex without embarrassing him and hurting the relationship?

It’s nice that you want to spare your boyfriend’s feelings, but don’t worry too much about it. Most guys don’t get embarrassed by that type of thing --- as long as you’re straightforward and honest.

Let him know you’re not out to embarrass or hurt him. And if he does get a little embarrassed or mad, he’ll have to deal with it because, honestly, how you feel is more important.

As far as your relationship goes, realize this is an important issue. If you two are together because you’re totally into each other, then letting him know how you feel should only bring you closer. (If it doesn’t, then you have to wonder how good the relationship was to begin with.)

Whatever you do, never sacrifice yourself or your virginity for the sake of a relationship.

So how to tell him? Find a good time to talk. Keep touching to a minimum, so you won’t get distracted. Know what you want to say before you sit down to talk. Start with telling him how you feel about him and how you want to stay in a relationship with him.

Then tell him why you want to wait to have sex. This can be simple. “I just don’t feel ready.” You should also know your sexual boundaries. (Is kissing OK, but other touching isn’t? How far are you willing to go?) Tell him.

Be honest and determined. That should earn his respect. If not, then maybe it’s time to find a new boyfriend.

Your Comments

Posted by: nonyetoyz on Jul 25th, 2008 5:30pm

i was in d sm problem.. we just got 2gether for like 4
months nd all he wnted ws sex.i told him i wsnt ready bt he
wld nt tk no for an answer.. so i hd to break up with him
even though i liked him

Posted by: moonp678 on May 29th, 2008 9:38pm

thats happened to me before and its better you tell him no
NOW. I really liked him and i told him mayb if i felt really
strong towards him and he kept asking and askign and asking
and finally i broke up . WE got back together and same
happened ... if thats all he wants from you hes not worth
it. my X was definitely not worth having .... if you dont
feel your ready just nicely explain it to him and if he
still pesters about it then you know hes really not for you
.. again "true love waits"

what to say

Posted by: bigboy94 on Sep 5th, 2007 5:28pm

as a boy, i would say that the best way to break it to a guy
that you dont want sex is either: -sorry im to young -i
realy dont want to yet something like that, just make shore
you're not agressive about it :)

What I would do

Posted by: tylerrose741492 on Jul 19th, 2007 6:58pm

I would say "If all you want me for is sex than you're not
worth going out with. If you can change then i might give
you a second chance." I have been in the same situation and
this method worked for me. Hope it works for you!

How i would do it

Posted by: odette1989 on Mar 15th, 2007 10:28pm

I would say,"look if you think i am the type of girl you
think your gonna have sex with it and not have a meaniful
relationship with me then i think its best we
seperate..cause iam not what you looking for..you obviously
want a relationship based on sex" and yes this is how i am
with my boyfriend..lol..I am mad straight forward :)

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