Ask yourself why a partner is pressuring you to take illegal and potentially dangerous drugs, during sex or otherwise. In a healthy relationship, people exhibit respect for each other; this includes not asking a partner to do things that are harmful. This may be a good time to re-examine your relationship and to decide whether it is healthy for you to remain in it.

There’s also no proof that taking drugs before having sex leads to better sex. It may reduce your inhibitions—the feelings that make you stop and think before doing something. But that can actually lead to decisions you might regret the next day, including not using protection or having sex with someone you don’t know well.

Tell your partner you don’t want to take the chance of hurting yourself or getting in trouble. If the relationship is healthy, your partner will respect your decision and not push the issue. If not, you may want to evaluate if the relationship is good for you.