If you’re pregnant, you have three basic options:

1. Abortion
2. Adoption
3. Parenthood

Making this very difficult decision takes a lot of soul-searching and information gathering. You have to make the choice that’s best for you, whatever that is. Don’t make a decision because you think it will please your parents, your partner or anyone else. This is your choice.

It’s a good idea to talk to a trained counselor at a family planning clinic like Planned Parenthood. They can help you sort through the pros and cons of each option and explore the solutions that would work best in your life.

To find a clinic with counselors, call  Planned Parenthood at 800-230-PLAN, visit their website at www.plannedparenthood.org or check in you phone book under "family planning."

Some clinics, often called "Crisis Pregnancy Centers"  will only talk to you about parenting and adoption. They don’t believe in abortion. If you’ve already ruled out abortion, then these clinics can help you make a choice between parenthood and adoption. Otherwise, steer clear and go to places that will give you accurate advice about abortion, too.

It’s also smart to talk to your parents. They might be disappointed, hurt or angry at first, but most parents want to help their children. After they get over the initial shock, a lot of teens are surprised at how supportive their parents are. Also, it’s very likely that you’ll have to tell them, no matter what you decide. A lot of states require teens to tell their parents, if they want to get an abortion.

The father’s parents can also be a source of support and help.

Here are some things to consider.

• Your relationship with the father. Can you count on him to support and help you, if you decide to become a parent?

• Your relationship with your parents/guardians. Will your parents help you?

• Your values and religious/spiritual beliefs. How do you feel about abortion? Do you have strong religious beliefs that might make this option unacceptable?

• Other support. Are there other people – your boyfriend’s parents, relatives, clergy – who will help you. What about programs -- both for adoption and teen parenting -- in your area?

• Your goals and dreams. How will having a child affect your future?

• Your financial situation. How will you support a child, if you decide to become a parent?

Spend some time with yourself and really decide what you want. Think carefully about how you feel. It’s a decision you’ll live with for the rest of your life.