You have no legal say in the decision. Under the law, your girlfriend gets to decide what to do about the pregnancy, whether it’s abortion, adoption or raising the child.  That’s her right.

But, most girls want the father of their baby involved in the decision, if he can be supportive and understanding of her feelings. So, if you want to have a say, we have a few suggestions.

First, think about how you feel about the pregnancy and the idea of becoming a dad. Do some soul-searching. If you’re angry over the pregnancy, you need to deal with that before you talk to her. Remember, you’re responsible for this pregnancy, too. It’s not only the girl’s job to protect against pregnancy. Guys should take precautions, too.

Now that you know how you feel and you’ve dealt with any anger, sit down and talk to her. Tell her how you feel, in a gentle way.

If you love her and want to help support her and a child, tell her how you feel. If she’s unsure, maybe you can suggest taking some time to talk and think about the decision (which is a lifelong one).

If you want her to have an abortion, but she wants to have a baby, there’s not much you can do except tell her what you want. You have to respect her decision. If she decides to keep the baby, you will be responsible to help support the child. So, in this case, it’s best to start thinking about what kind of relationship you want (co-parents or romantic partners?) and what kind of father you want to be.