“Is anal sex sinful? I believe it is no more sinful then any other form of sex. If you're not hurting yourself or anyone else, how can sex be sinning?”
—Shoshanna, 18, UT
What is oral sex (a blow job, eating someone out) and how do you do it?
Oral sex is when a person uses his or her mouth to sexually stimulate the genitals of another person. Oral sex given to a man usually means sucking or licking the penis. It's called fellatio. You've probably heard it called other things, like "blow job."
Oral sex given to a woman usually means licking or sucking the clitoris and other parts of the vulva (female genitals). It's called cunnilingus. You've probably heard it called "eating (someone) out" or "eating pussy."
Slang words can be confusing because their meanings are not always clear. For example, "blow job" has nothing to do with blowing; "eating out" does not involve chewing.
There is no "right" way to perform oral sex on a male or a female because different things are pleasurable for different people. The specifics need to be explored by each pair of people with a little creativity and a lot of honest communication. That means you have to try different things and ask your partner what he or she likes.
If a male has an orgasm during oral sex, he will ejaculate semen. The semen, if swallowed, will be digested like anything else swallowed into the stomach. Most people say semen tastes salty, but it varies from one guy to the next. However, it is not a good idea to let someone ejaculate into your mouth because unprotected oral sex can transmit STDs. Always use a condom during oral sex with either a male or a female. Some people who do not want to swallow semen choose to spit it out on a towel or tissues. Other people simply move their mouth away from the end of the penis right before the male ejaculates. Spitting semen out or moving your mouth away will not protect you from STDs, however.
When oral sex is performed on a woman, partners can protect each other from STDs by using a dental dam. A dental dam is a thin sheet of latex you can get at a clinic or in some drug stores and lays over a woman's genitals. Partners can also cut a condom length-wise to create a sheet of latex to use as a barrier between the person's mouth and the vulva. Using a few drops of lubrication underneath the latex can improve the sensations for the woman receiving oral sex.
Oral sex can be a very pleasurable part of sexual activity and many people enjoy both giving and receiving oral sex. Two important things to remember, though. As with any sexual act, make sure both partners truly feel comfortable with the idea before engaging in it. And, some sexually transmitted diseases can be spread through oral sex, so it is important to use condoms or dental dams. Partners can also get tested to know their status.
Oral sex given to a woman usually means licking or sucking the clitoris and other parts of the vulva (female genitals). It's called cunnilingus. You've probably heard it called "eating (someone) out" or "eating pussy."
Slang words can be confusing because their meanings are not always clear. For example, "blow job" has nothing to do with blowing; "eating out" does not involve chewing.
There is no "right" way to perform oral sex on a male or a female because different things are pleasurable for different people. The specifics need to be explored by each pair of people with a little creativity and a lot of honest communication. That means you have to try different things and ask your partner what he or she likes.
If a male has an orgasm during oral sex, he will ejaculate semen. The semen, if swallowed, will be digested like anything else swallowed into the stomach. Most people say semen tastes salty, but it varies from one guy to the next. However, it is not a good idea to let someone ejaculate into your mouth because unprotected oral sex can transmit STDs. Always use a condom during oral sex with either a male or a female. Some people who do not want to swallow semen choose to spit it out on a towel or tissues. Other people simply move their mouth away from the end of the penis right before the male ejaculates. Spitting semen out or moving your mouth away will not protect you from STDs, however.
When oral sex is performed on a woman, partners can protect each other from STDs by using a dental dam. A dental dam is a thin sheet of latex you can get at a clinic or in some drug stores and lays over a woman's genitals. Partners can also cut a condom length-wise to create a sheet of latex to use as a barrier between the person's mouth and the vulva. Using a few drops of lubrication underneath the latex can improve the sensations for the woman receiving oral sex.
Oral sex can be a very pleasurable part of sexual activity and many people enjoy both giving and receiving oral sex. Two important things to remember, though. As with any sexual act, make sure both partners truly feel comfortable with the idea before engaging in it. And, some sexually transmitted diseases can be spread through oral sex, so it is important to use condoms or dental dams. Partners can also get tested to know their status.
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Your Comments
hi
Posted by: miss_mexico123 on Sep 7th, 2008 1:55am
I have much likely the same concern as the 5th person who
posted above me, I'd like to know how high the risk is of
getting std's if both of us partners have never given it to
anyone else.
And is oral sex actually sex?
My bf tells me it
really isn't, and I believe him because actual sex/making
love usually means ending up with a baby correct? I'm
concerned about this because I am a catholic (no sex b4
marriage) & I don't wish to cross the line, thus why we only
do the oral in our relationship.
RE: Any Risk?
Posted by: DanR on Jul 28th, 2008 4:48pm
It is true. This is why we encourage people to use latex
barriers when they have oral sex. The cold sore could be
caused by the oral version of the herpes simplex virus which
can be passed along to the genitals. Having that kind of
open sore on your mouth can also leave you more open to the
risk of getting an STD as well. I would suggest always
using a latex barrier when performing or receiving oral sex
because herpes (and other STDS) can be spread even if a
person has no (visable) symptoms.
Any Risk?
Posted by: loving_brandon123 on Jul 27th, 2008 11:48am
is it true if i had a cold sore and i gave my boyfriend a
"blow job" i can him it on his penis?
RE: hi
Posted by: DanR on Jun 30th, 2008 2:04pm
This is one of many different points of view people have
regarding oral sex (or any kind of sex for that matter). It
is important that we respect each others opinions and give
everyone a chance to speak their mind. What is good for one
person, may not work for another person. That is one of the
nice things about Sex, etc...we get to hear so many
different points of view. Abstinence is the safest option,
but if you have sex, make sure you are protecting yourself
against pregnancy and STDs.
hi
Posted by: tammy on Jun 28th, 2008 4:54pm
well i personally believe that oral sex is wrong so people
should not be sucking nor eating anything to catch a disease
and all those who are doing it STOP!!!!!!!!!!
any risks?
Posted by: LucindaH on Jun 6th, 2008 3:29pm
If you and your boyfriend have never had vaginal, oral or
anal sex with anyone else, then the risk of either of you
getting an STD is very slim. But if you or your boyfriend
has been exposed to oral herpes from drinking after someone,
being kissed as a baby or from kissing another partner,
there is a risk of passing oral herpes--from mouth to mouth
or mouth to genitals. Check out this FAQ on herpes:
http://www.sexetc.org/faq/std/1011.
any risks?
Posted by: girly92 on Jun 4th, 2008 1:02pm
ive been recieved and given oral but my bf and i have never
had oral,vaginal,or anal sex with anyone else.How high at
risk are we of catching any std???
OMG
Posted by: yenniedoll on Jun 2nd, 2008 12:45am
i didnt know that.thanx for sharing this
RE: just questions i have
Posted by: DanR on May 13th, 2008 2:48pm
I think that each guy will feel differently about a girl not
wanting to give oral sex or swallowing his cum. The
important thing is how YOU feel about it. You should NEVER
do anything that BOTH partners are not completely
comfortable with. To find out how your partner feels about
this, you should have this conversation before you have
oral sex. By having unprotected oral sex you are putting
you and your partner at a greater risk for giving or
transmitting an STD.
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RE: hi
Posted by: DanR on Sep 8th, 2008 1:56pm
It's impossible for me to say a % risk. Remember that you
can get oral herpes from kissing or even drinking out of the
same glass as someone, and that can be passed to the
genitals. To reduce the risk you should always use a condom
or Sheer Glyde Dam when having oral sex. Different people
have different opinions about whether oral sex is actually
sex. The important thing to remember is that you can get a
sexually transmitted disease from doing it...so take that
into consideration as you decide.