Is it OK to have sex with a friend?

Some teens experiment sexually with friends to practice and learn about sex. Sometimes, it just feels more comfortable. That makes sense, since you already have a history, trust and friendship. 

Problems can crop up when two friends have different expectations of the relationship after they have sex. One person might think having sex moves the relationship into the “love” category. The other one wants to keep things just as they were. If that happens, someone is sure to get hurt.

That’s why it’s important to talk about the decision to have sex with your friend, before you do it. Make sure you both want the same things and are really ready to handle the complicationsand responsibilitiesthat often come with sex.


Your Comments

My friend pressures me

Posted by: cupidskiller on Jul 17th, 2008 10:42am

Lets call him bob. Bob always says if i want to experiment
with him i can. I DONT want to because bobs my best friend.
It makes me uncomfortable because He gets Pissed when i tell
him NO and that im not attracted to him. Im still a virgin
and he just doesnt stop. He HAS a gf, whos a close friend to
me, yet he doesnt act like it. He always hits on girls even
when shes around. she says shes fine with it but shes not.
just watch out, you might hurt a friend.

Re: same thing

Posted by: aveaveave on Jul 16th, 2008 12:24am

I understand how you feel, but don't you think that if you
want to go out - something is already different from what it
was before? I just want to say that even after you start
going out and if you break up - then you can still do it in
a way that you'd be friends after...Lots of people remain
friends after break-ups and in fact most people I know. Just
take those things in consideration and make your choice
wisely.

my situation..

Posted by: jmoney01 on Jun 29th, 2008 9:01pm

last night i was hanging out with my friend at his house,he
has a girlfriend who i used to be good friends with.My
friend & i got together once before, and he fingered me & i
gave him a hand job.last night we were talkin about getting
together, but i was like youhave a gf.but i wanted to have
sex with him/ we did and it was amazing because im so
comfortable with him anyways, he made it comfortable for me,
and not awkward. this was my first time & its just how i
wanted my first time to happen.

same thing

Posted by: sumomolover on Jun 13th, 2008 9:11pm

This is why me and my friend began having sex but we ened up
feeling feelings but now were scared if we go out we will
ruin our friendship

RE: It depends

Posted by: gray.scale27 on May 3rd, 2008 1:07pm

yeah, you have to bee careful, the guy i spoke of earlier
and i had sex, but he and i both had the unspoken thing not
to spread it far and wide. XD but i think i made the right
choice. he is a GREAT friend, made me feel comfy and safe.
plus, he assured me i was defective... long story. lol!

it depends

Posted by: selena! on Apr 15th, 2008 10:55pm

my first time was with a guy that was my friend for 6 years.
we were both 11 and wanted to see wht it was like. the
problem after was he went around and told everyone then i
had a bad reputation. you just have to think hard about it
befpre you do it

hmmm

Posted by: notworried on Dec 30th, 2007 11:47pm

i have with my bff. we were 14 and both grls. no we aren't
lesbians, but we wanted to see what sex was.

I think it's alright

Posted by: gray.scale27 on Dec 15th, 2007 12:39pm

but it is really one's opinon. I'm terrible(!) at
relationships... but this one guy and I just mess around,
kinda ben-friends

Its ok

Posted by: punx.teh.pirate on May 19th, 2007 11:05pm

When i first had sex it was with my friend and yes we was
Friends with benefits just remember No STRINGS
ATTACHED!!!! if you fall in love with him your
screwed XD

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