Cyber and phone sex usually involve sex talk on the phone or over the Internet. Sometimes, one or both people masturbate as they talk about sexually arousing things.

For some people, cyber and phone sex are ways to have sexual experiences with another person without the risks of pregnancy, disease, or having to work at having a “real life” relationship with someone. Some people like the distance and anonymity of this kind of sex.

Couples who are separated by distance sometimes use phone or cyber sex to stay close while they’re apart. Other times, people in committed relationships use phone or cyber sex to have outside sexual activity that they don’t see as cheating. But, many people do consider this kind of sex cheating. Others don’t. It’s up to each couple to decide what is OK and what’s not.

Cyber and phone sex have no risk of pregnancy or disease, since you aren’t in physical contact with the other person. But, if you exchange phone numbers or addresses, then it can be very dangerous since you don’t know who you’re talking to. That’s especially true with cyber sex, where people can lie about their age, sex, and who they are. Sexual predators – rapists, pedophiles -- often disguise themselves and go online to lure young people into sexual encounters, pornography, prostitution and other illegal and dangerous activities. 

That’s why it’s important to never arrange a personal meeting with someone you only know through the Internet. People have been hurt and even killed by agreeing to meet with people they only know online.