“Ordering emergency contraception over-the-counter should be the right of the girl because it is her body not the state's.”
—Josh, 19, OK
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“Ordering emergency contraception over-the-counter should be the right of the girl because it is her body not the state's.”
—Josh, 19, OK
Originally Published: Nov 4, 2004
Revised: Nov 15, 2007
I was sitting on my couch one sunny day in the middle of the summer, with a bag of potato chips, channel surfing. There was nothing on TV, except those annoying infomercials, selling exercise equipment, and the World's Strongest Man Competition.
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In an almost mad panic, I threw the bag of potato chips halfway across the room, put on sweats, and started doing exercises, while humming the theme song to Rocky.
This story may sound funny, but the truth is, more and more teen guys are becoming concerned with body image.
Sure, lots of guys want to lose a few pounds to make the wrestling or basketball teams or to be more attractive to their partners. Many have looked in the mirror, wishing they had the six-pack stomach or bulging biceps. And some take steps to look better.
"Even though I haven't achieved what I believe is the perfect body, I do a lot of exercises, and I try to eat fruits and vegetables and stay away from fatty fast food," says Tyrone, 19, of Newark, NJ. "This is the total opposite of what I used to do."
That's healthy. But when guys get obsessed with cutting the perfect body, they sometimes do unhealthy things—starving themselves, exercising obsessively, or taking steroids. More guys seem to be going to these extremes.
"Within my practice, I have seen a significant increase in the number of boys and young men with eating disorders, often quite severe," says Dr. Doug Bunnell, president of the Seattle-based National Eating Disorders Association's Board of Trustees.
The media are part of the problem. "It is very clear that the media have focused their attention on men," Dr. Bunnell explains. "The number of male health magazines with perfectly-buffed men on the covers has increased."
Casey, 15, of Davis, CA, agrees. "Media are a big one," he says. "People with bodies like Paul Walker, Travis Fimmel, and Brad Pitt only make [the average guy] look worse."
Though the media are partly to blame for guys going to the extreme, there's another major factor, teen guys say.
"Girls," says Tom, 17, of Boulder, CO. "I feel like girls are more into a guy who has a nice-looking body, instead of a slob."
This desire to look like stars—or attract partners—drives some guys to develop eating disorders. Just like some girls, they starve themselves, exercise excessively, vomit, and use laxatives and diuretics, which cause the body to expel excessive water weight, according to Dr. Bunnell. All this can lead to serious health problems.
"Boys clearly can and do develop anorexia nervosa, with the full set of symptoms, including a morbid fear of being overweight," Dr. Bunnell explains. "They see themselves as fat when, objectively, they are seriously emaciated. I think the predominant concern is to be lean, hard, and muscular."
Unlike girls, guys are more likely to take steroids and growth hormones that bulk up muscles, Dr. Bunnell adds. These drugs can cause serious health problems, including liver cancer, severe acne, and high blood pressure, to name a few.
And here's the really bad news. Teen guys who take steroids can actually end up shorter than they would have been if they hadn't taken the drugs. While steroids pump you up on the outside, they actually slow your growth on the inside, according to research by the National Institutes on Drug Abuse.
So, how do you know if you're just getting in shape or if you really have a problem? If you're taking drugs to look good, that's a real problem. Another red flag is feeling like a loser because you don't look like a bodybuilder.
"If concerns about your body image are affecting your mood or what you do with food, then you need help," Dr. Bunnell advises. "Body image concerns usually reflect concerns about self-worth, and it's important to tackle the essential problem."
The trick, says Dr. Brunnell, is balance. It's OK to want to look good, but it's dangerous to push yourself to unhealthy extremes. It's also important to be comfortable with your body and lose the idea that there is a "perfect body." People come in different shapes and sizes and, for some, bulging biceps and a six-pack stomach just aren't possible.
Focus on the great parts of your body, try to improve the weak areas, and then accept the fact that none of us is perfect.
Editors' Note: If you think you or someone you know may have an eating disorder, go to the National Eating Disorders Association Web site or call their helpline at 1-800-931-2237.
Another good source of info is Making Weight: Healing Men's Conflicts with Food, Weight, and Shape, by Arnold Andersen, Leigh Cohn, Tom Holbrook (Gurze Books, 2000).
Guys aren't the only ones obsessed with having a buff bod. Check out what girls have to say about body image.
Girls point of view
Posted by: easykill on Jun 1st, 2008 7:02pm
As a girl I know that I, and all my girlfriends, do not like
those big muscly men you see on TV. Every girl likes
something different, so why try and conform to a stereotype
that only some girls will like? Personally, I like a guy to
look after himself, but not too much, and muscles can
sometimes be intimidating. I'd rather he spent more time
with me than on his body.
not just women have disorders.
Posted by: thatkid962 on Apr 5th, 2008 10:43pm
i feel that society focuses more on female eating disorders,
but neglects some things about men, we too, like women, get
eating disorders, because the media has an impact on our
lives, as it does womens'. while the awareness of women
getting eating disorders in order to get skinnier like the
"popular" girls at school, is amazing, i think there should
be a bit more awareness of men with disorders. if there is,
i just don't see them that often is all.
size or looks.... no just ur personality =)
Posted by: rika_ona on May 26th, 2007 8:23am
I myself have always gone after the heavy set guys. I can't
stand people who are over ego and want to look like a god in
a body that they are abusing. so what if your a few pounds
over weight. take pride in yourself is one of the best
things and your personality. not your oh so godly body. you
feel like shit and abuse it just to achive something that
might not even make u feel better but worse. so please
becareful on how your doing things
size or looks.... no just ur personality =)
Posted by: rika_ona on May 26th, 2007 8:22am
I myself have always gone after the heavy set guys. I can't
stand people who are over ego and want to look like a god in
a body that they are abusing. so what if your a few pounds
over weight. take pride in yourself is one of the best
things and your personality. not your oh so godly body then
feel like shit and abouse it just to achive something that
might not even make u feel better but worse. so please
becareful on how your doing things
setting up an form on
heavy set ppl and their pride
Ewwwwww...
Posted by: musicchickie on Jul 8th, 2008 12:57pm
Personally, i know very few girls who like lots and lots of
muscles. i am definitely not one of them. Yeah you can be
too skinny but depending on how u work with it, skinny can
be hot. if ur overweight, don't worry about what girls
think of that, believe me, we know what its like to deal
with that...