Guys Want More Than Sex

By Christine B., 17, Contributor

Originally Published: Feb 24, 2004

Revised: Apr 9, 2008

Guys and sex. They seem to go together. We see the stereotype everywhere—guys hitting it on prom night, guys competing to see who can sleep with the most women.

It makes you wonder, is sex the only thing guys care about?

Not for the 10 guys we talked to. When it comes to girls, they talk about personality, a sense of humor, and a girl who understands them. Looks count, they add. But there's more to romance than a great bod.

Photo by Edward Mills

"I admit that the first thing that catches my eye is a pretty face and a great body," says Drew Anadi, 18, "but if she's only a body, then what kind of conversation can we have?"

Looks, they add, only go so far. "Finding out a really beautiful girl is an airhead is a total let down," says Aaron Zitch, 18.

A sense of humor is the number one thing they look for in a girl.

"I would never want to date a girl who didn't have a sense of humor. I would have to worry if my jokes were offending her all the time," said Joe Chenie, 16.

Of course, different guys are into different things. Some guys like girls who are into sports, others want girls who know their way around the library. But most of the guys we interviewed look for a girl with a great personality and a sense of humor.

Ryan Smith, 19, has had a steady girlfriend for over a year. His favorite thing about her is the way she makes him feel. She is sensitive and always willing to listen when something is bothering him. They base their relationship on trust, not sex.

"I look for someone I can connect with, not someone I can have sex with," he says. Good news, hey girls?

Your Comments

Very True

Posted by: kbrown29 on Jun 29th, 2009 3:01pm

I'm a guy who definatley looks for personality and humour
rather than just physical appearance. Don't get me wrong
looks are a bonus but if I can't share the intimate details
of my life with a girl, then the relationship is pointless.

Thanx!!

Posted by: Bri-Danyell on Jun 5th, 2009 11:51pm

I am so happy that guys can actually come clean about wat
they really want in a relationship and I'm absolutely glad
that sex is not all they want:) That gives us females more
hope for u guys and know that we can be in a relationship
with u n not be pressured n any way to have sex to gain ur
affection. Thanx for the confirmation!:)

Agree :)

Posted by: Dp on May 29th, 2009 1:22pm

Love and sex is two different things.What every girl needs
are secure and well protected.Sex is when both of you got
into a really serious relation :)

Hey Everybody! =)

Posted by: Chulaprincess95 on Apr 28th, 2009 1:04pm

Having a girlfriend or boyfriend doesn't mean you have to
have sex with them just to please them. You should never
have sex with them because you think that it will make them
happy and love you more. There's lots of things to do to
have a great relationship besides sex. Sex isn't that
important.

virgin here.

Posted by: BrandiKay on Feb 28th, 2009 6:56pm

this is sorta true. because everytime i'm into a guy, we
always end up talking about sexual things. yes, they talk
about all of those things in this thingy. i'm a pretty face,
and a nice bod. but that's not all i am. ya'know?

Not all about SEX...

Posted by: aripod on Feb 4th, 2009 12:29am

I'm glad this article has been posted. I think that nowadays
a lot of people just want sex, guy and girls included. My
father always told me that after sitting at a dinner table
with someone very attractive, what's going to come after,
"You're Hot!" You need someone to connect with, mentally.
Sure, physically connecting with someone is swell, but
there's a lot more to guys/ girls than just a body.

there is such a guy like that

Posted by: maniak18 on Jan 19th, 2009 12:08am

my parnter was always asking me to have sex with him i
thought there wasnt a guy that didnt always think about sex
24/7 but now reading this i now know that there is a guy
like that and i hope i can find one that will ecept me for
me not wat i can do.but i dont know how to explain to him if
i find him that i had sex ??? help me plzz!!!

Sex isn't that important

Posted by: SwaggedOut on Jan 14th, 2009 11:49pm

Most guys don't care that much about sex if they want that
person as a girlfriend. Personality and humor are the most
important, with looks coming in second. You talk to your
girlfriend all the time, which is when personality and humor
matters. You can't realisticaly have sex 4 times a day, but
you CAN have over 50 conversations during that same period
of time.

Wow this is the best thing ever!

Posted by: Sweet_Disaster on Oct 29th, 2008 7:54pm

I once dated this guy which only wanted sex! He was a virgin
and of course all of his friends were placing bets. So
eventually we broke up and now i have a guy who cares only
about personality. Ever since i have known him he always
wants to show me to new things and he invtes me over for
dinner and he comes and hangs here. I think a relationship
does better without sex while a teenager. But thats my
personal opinion.

Guys and sex

Posted by: UayePrincess on May 5th, 2008 2:12pm

I'm waiting till I'm married boys you won't be able to get
into bed its a releif u guys kinda feel that way 2!!!!