“The first time I had sex is something I regret very much. Now that I think about it, I was very young and naive and irresponsible. I believe that I was under the...”
—Lee, 17, Oregon
First Moves: How to Ask Someone Out
Originally Published: Feb 14, 2008
Revised: Feb 14, 2008
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Most people assume the guy will ask the girl out. However, in today’s world, a lot of girls ask out guys, guys ask out guys and girls ask out girls. In any situation, there can be pressure and stress. It takes a lot of courage to ask someone out. Check out my tips below before making the first move.
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Photo by Scott Houston Photography Staff writer Allie Hough, 17. Meet Allie. |
How to Ask Someone Out
- Be yourself. Although this sounds clichéd, this is probably one of the most important things to remember. If a person isn’t interested in you being exactly who you are, then he or she probably isn’t right for you.
- Come up with something that you’d like to do with him or her. Then, casually ask him or her to go to the movies or out to dinner. Who doesn’t like a good meal or movie?
- Plan a group date. This is a good move if you’re not comfortable asking someone out. You can have some of your friends and their friends all go out together. (If you end up having a bad time, at least you won’t be stuck.)
- Don’t be shy! According to my informal poll, guys especially think it’s hot when a person asks them out, so don’t hold back. Be bold and make the first move. Whether you’re a girl or guy, confidence is key, and most find it sexy.
- Be a friend first and then ask your crush out. It’s sometimes easier to plunge into something more if you get to know each other as friends first.
- Bounce back, even if you’re rejected! We all have different tastes, and if a person decides you’re not right for him or her, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. It just means you’re not right for that person, and you deserve to be with someone who thinks you’re great. There is ALWAYS someone else.
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Your Comments
Orientation
Posted by: icantthinkofagoodusernamelol on Aug 7th, 2009 10:18pm
I have a crush on my friend and wanna ask her out, but she's
straight and I'm bi. What should I do?
Group Dates DONT ALWAYS work out
Posted by: mysterious_girl on Dec 29th, 2008 12:09pm
Me and my bf and my friend and her bf went to the cinema,
then pizza afterwards. YET it ended up with them breaking up
infront of us, and me a nibblin at pizza and my BF just sat
there aquardly:{
LOL
Posted by: Daniel_R on Dec 12th, 2008 8:43pm
you've got to be kidding me Seriously I wasan't a big Hit in
High School nobody bothered with me I met one kid and he and
I became friends and that Surprised me but back on Tha Topic
every Time I asked a girl out I got told no or sorry I have
a boyfriend I sat alone at a Table and ate my lunch I
wasan't popular in High School I was a Total Loser in High
School I Failed every subject in sight and I ended up
dropping out of High School which I'm not too proud of but I
Never got anywhere in School.
group dates
Posted by: no-room-left on Jul 23rd, 2008 10:37pm
i think group dates are a great way to spend some time with
someone.there are no pressure or any akward silences. you
should hang out with them just as friends first and see how
things go in your group, then maybe plan a smaller date for
just the two of you.
in response to sexyboy's problem
Posted by: xhitaswitchx on Feb 19th, 2008 10:03am
i've done this a couple times. it's the quintessential
problem: you're about to ask out your friend and are afraid
if she says no, the friendship will end. here's what i did.
i told my friend that there was no pressure to say yes, and
that i would always treasure my friendship with them. if
they say yes, then great! if not, then keep the frienship
bonds strong and try not to get awkward. remember, they were
your friend first and foremost.
good luck!
RE: Asking friend out
Posted by: DanR on Feb 18th, 2008 11:59am
Unfortunately, there is never any way to guarantee someone
will still be friends, but Allie gives some great advice on
how to ease into the situation. Try setting up a group date
and see how that goes. From there you can come up with
something for the two of you to do on your own, like dinner
or a movie and see what she says. Remember, if you are
already friends, there must be something your friend likes
about you, so just relax. Good Luck!
Asking friend out
Posted by: sexyboy on Feb 14th, 2008 10:02pm
I'm currently going through this problem. I want to ask my
friend out but am afraid not only to ask her out but if she
says no what might ahppen to our friendsship. Any
suggestions about how to make sure you're still friends?
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asking friend out(again)
Posted by: crazyredhead on Dec 30th, 2009 11:11am
I went out with my friend but then he dumped me and i got
really upset and a year on i still havent asked him out!