Oral Sex: Why Do So Few Teens Use Protection?

By Daniel Hong, 17, Contributor

Originally Published: Feb 17, 2006

Revised: Aug 28, 2009

David and Hannah had been dating exclusively for about eight months. They had talked about oral sex a few months earlier, but they agreed it was too soon in their relationship for anything but kissing. One evening, in the backseat of David's car, it came up again. And this time, Hannah agreed. "I'll do it, if you want me to," she said.

"Are you sure?" asked David.

Hannah nodded yes.

"Okay." He pulled down his pants, and she proceeded down….


Photo by Ana Bacic, 17

Sound familiar to you? Oral sex has become increasingly common these days in teen relationships. The National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG) reports that among teens, ages 15 to 19, 55% of males and 54% of females had engaged in oral sex in 2002.

While oral sex is increasingly common among teens, using protection during the act is not. The NSFG study goes on to say that only 9% of teens used protection during the most recent time they had engaged in oral sex. Also, the 2005 Campanile's Survey on Student Sexuality states that an amazing 75% of students admitted to never having used protection during oral sex.

Why are so few teens using protection?

Because I Trust My Partner

One common feeling is that a condom is not required if there is trust and love. When a group of teens in California's San Fernando Valley were interviewed by this reporter, only one reported using a condom during oral sex.

Abby, a junior, knows that "protection during oral sex can help protect against sexually transmitted diseases." However, Abby admits to never using protection during oral sex.

When Abby is asked why she doesn't use protection, she responds, "Because I know my partners very well, and I know there are no possible diseases either of us can encounter, therefore I don't see the need for [protection]."

Jane, 17, agrees, "If it is somebody I trust and care about and am comfortable with, then I won't use it."

It's good that trust is established in these relationships, but acting without condoms is like fighting fire without the proper suit.

Because It's Not Comfortable

A sense of discomfort may be another reason teens don't use latex during oral play.

Adam, a sexually active gay teen, does not use a condom when he has oral sex. Why? "It reminds me of the dentist," he says. "Not a good thought during sex."

None of the girls interviewed reported wanting to use a dental dam  during cunnilingus (going down on a girl). One didn't even know what a dental dam was. The fact that none of the girls have ever even thought to use protection around oral sex is significant. "It would be uncomfortable," says Jane. "It seems unnecessary," adds Sue, 17.

Divya, 18, a sexually active bisexual, believes that "it's more sensual when it's just you and [your partner] without rubber." Divya, by the way, is knowledgeable about the potential dangers. "I know about all the STDs you can get from oral sex." But she still says she never uses protection during oral sex.

Because Oral Sex Is Not Really Sex (Or So Some Teens Believe)

The main reason teens do not use condoms and dental dams during the deed may be because many do not consider oral sex to be real sex. Lots of teens think of oral sex as just something to do, not unlike kissing or heavy petting. The Campanile study confirmed that one-third of teenagers would easily have oral sex if they just liked someone and were not in relationships. "I think it's okay, but I don't consider it as intimate as actual sex," says Marla, 18.

However, oral sex is a serious matter. Having oral sex without protection can mean a significant risk for STDs. Since not all STDs have visible symptoms, many teens may never know if their partner has a disease or not. They may be passing around diseases without even realizing it.

If you are a sexually active teen, get tested. You can call the Centers for Disease Control's national hotline at 1-800-227-8922 for more info on STDs and testing sites near you. The consequences of oral sex cannot be emphasized enough.

Your Comments

Re: protection

Posted by: CJT on Jan 4th, 2010 1:42pm

It's true that condoms are not completely effective against
all STDs. Some infections, such as herpes, can be spread
from skin to skin contact, and so if a condom is not
covering an area of skin that has infection then it can
still be spread, even if you're using a condom. Using latex
barriers, like condoms and dental dams, is one way to have
safer oral sex. Why do you say you can't get tested? To find
testing near you, check this out:
http://www.sexetc.org/page/get_tested

Protection...Protection...Protection...

Posted by: airborne008 on Dec 29th, 2009 1:17am

Ive heard from various doctors that condoms don't stop some
diseases, and what if we can't get tested? How can we have
"safe" oral sex then?

RE: A condom is artificial sex

Posted by: DanR on Aug 31st, 2009 12:17pm

Yes, the Ask the Experts feature is not up right now, but
any questions that people have can be directed to the Forums
and an expert will reply in there.

A condom is artificial sex

Posted by: HeadPutty14 on Aug 30th, 2009 10:02pm

My girlfriend never uses a condom when giving me a blowjob,
because a condom is artificial sex to the both of us. Also,
what happened to the Ask the Experts column, did they get
rid of it?

The Feeling

Posted by: theritegirl on Dec 4th, 2008 10:56pm

I think it is because people just don't think they can get a
std from doing it and I think it has to be with taking away
the feeling from actually having the tongue on the genitals.
I never heard of my friends using a condom on their
boyfriend when giving them oral sex and I just couldn't see
myself putting a piece of plastic (dental dam) between my
guys tongue and my vagina when he is licking down there.
But using them is probably the best to protect yourself.

RE: No Need to if...

Posted by: DanR on Jul 15th, 2008 5:11pm

Love and trust are present in many sexual relationships,
which is GREAT! Unfortunately, they will not protect you
against things that may have happened in the past before
your current relationship began. Remember, many STDs do not
present any symptoms, and so people may not even know that
they have one. If you decide to have unprotected sex
because there is love and trust in your relationship, it is
best to get tested together before you engage in any
unprotected activities.

RE: Don't like the taste?

Posted by: DanR on Jul 15th, 2008 4:58pm

Saran wrap is certainly better than nothing, but do keep in
mind that only Sheer Glyde Dams have been approved for this
purpose. If you don't like the taste, flavored lubricant
can be applied to Sheer Glyde Dams, or you can cut open a
flavored condom and lay that over the vulva. One side note
about saran wrap...make sure if you do go this route you are
not using the microwaveable kind. This kind has pores
(little holes) in it and will not give you much protection
at all.

RE: Well,

Posted by: DanR on Jul 15th, 2008 2:18pm

Unfortunately, there is no way to absolutely know if someone
has an STD or not. There are some STDs that do not present
any symptoms, so some people may have an STD and not even
know it. It's not like there are "certain types of people"
that get STDs either. They can happen to anyone. Also, as
you can see from other comments, some people are also not
truthful about their sexual history. It is up to you
protect yourself.

I agree

Posted by: ratdude747 on Jul 15th, 2008 12:12pm

I personally have not "done it", but some of my friends have
(with many partners) and never used a condom. You wish you
can trust people, but they either lie or simply don't know.
The solution- use a non-lubricated condom- they even come in
flavors- no nasty latex smell/taste. people, use protection

oral sex

Posted by: nataraj on Jul 13th, 2008 8:47am

it is always better having protection on any type of sex

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